When words like "living authentically," "enjoying life," or "pursuing dreams" come up, what are the first thoughts that cross your mind?

Perhaps they sound overly idealistic: "Dreams don't pay the bills," or "These motivational phrases belong in the seminars or insurance pitches." Or maybe: "With salaries this low, who has the luxury of dreaming?"

Is this how it feels? Let’s delve into some overlooked lessons from Taiwanese education—how to change these mindsets and reclaim quality of life amid work and daily routines. While feelings of helplessness or isolation may linger, here are some myths and strategies to address them.

Myth 1: Only the Wealthy Can Enjoy Life

Is enjoyment synonymous with expensive indulgences? Economic stability undeniably enhances living standards, and wealthier nations may seem to offer greater comfort. However, enjoying life isn’t an exclusive privilege of the rich. It's something anyone can embrace at any moment.

What’s stopping you from enjoying life? Common reasons often include debt, health issues, unemployment, or family responsibilities. Yet, these hurdles reflect a perception that "enjoyment" must be extravagant. True enjoyment could be as simple as savoring a meal and appreciating its flavors.

Someone deeply engrossed in their work, dancing, reading, or even intimacy exudes a special charm because they are fully present. Paying attention to what sparks joy within can reveal opportunities for fulfillment.

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Myth 2: Life is Inherently About Compromise

It’s tempting to believe that pursuing dreams is impractical, especially with financial obligations looming. But does compromising mean abandoning aspirations? Ask yourself, “What are we living for?” The answers may range from family and financial independence to travel or entrepreneurship. Then, ask: “What’s stopping us from starting today?”

Viewing life as a series of compromises is a self-imposed limitation. Everything you do for your life should be an investment, not a sacrifice. Avoid falling into the trap of portraying yourself as a victim of societal expectations. If dissatisfaction lingers, consider your reasons for staying the course, or take action toward a lifestyle that aligns with your values.

If current responsibilities seem to block aspirations, try reframing your mindset: Treat these duties as stepping stones toward your dreams. Alternatively, let go of unfulfilling tasks and redirect efforts toward pursuits that resonate. The best time to start is now.

Myth 3: "Enjoy Life"? Better to Endure Hardship

Traditional values like "hardship builds character" or "sweetness follows bitterness" have long shaped perceptions of work and sacrifice. This mindset often leads to neglecting personal well-being for the productivity. Even small joys, like seeking relaxation or treating oneself, can attract criticism in a society that normalizes struggle.

While enduring challenges can build resilience, this perspective also risks breeding envy or diminishing others’ successes. Instead of rationalizing hardship, identify discomforts and seek solutions. True well-being involves embracing personal joys without needing validation from others.

Myth 4: Personal Dreams Conflict with Societal Norms

The fear of diverging from societal expectations can deter many from pursuing unconventional paths. Yet, breaking away from predefined norms doesn't equate to failure. Individuals are unique, and adhering to a one-size-fits-all blueprint stifles potential.

For instance, some communities prioritize simple, self-sustained lifestyles over conventional achievements like career advancement or material possessions. Their happiness stems from meaningful connections and aligning actions with values. Their lives, though different, are no less fulfilling.

Embrace individuality as a strength, not a flaw. Personal fulfillment doesn’t require societal approval; it only demands self-responsibility. As long as actions harm no one, creating a life that aligns with personal values is entirely valid.

Taking Control of Life

If dissatisfaction persists, reflect on the choices contributing to it. Life's quality isn’t solely dependent on financial standing but also on habits that promote mental and physical well-being. Practices like adequate sleep, balanced nutrition, and self-care boost confidence and set the stage for a more fulfilling existence.

Treat health and happiness as investments in life, not indulgences. Adopting such a perspective can foster transformative changes.

Ultimately, everyone has the right to design their own lives without waiting for external validation. The choice to love and care for oneself is always within reach. Take the leap—you're worth it.