In a healthy relationship, both you and your partner feel connected to each other and are satisfied with how the relationship is going. That may sound obvious, but an estimated 40% to 50% of marriages, in particular, in the US end in divorce. So establishing a healthy relationship is often easier said than done.
There are many factors that make up a healthy relationship, like commitment and trust, which can help you navigate problems and stay together. Here are 8 signs that you're in a healthy relationship.
1. You trust each other
You trust your partner, meaning you have confidence in them, can rely on them, and feel safe with them physically and emotionally. You trust your partner no matter who they spend time with or where they go. When you are consistent in your actions and words (you do what you say and say what you do), you are building trust.
2. You respect each other.
You don’t have to delight in everything your partner does, but you do need to respect each other. You and your significant other need to understand that you are each unique people with individual interests and needs. And even if you don’t love all the same things that your partner loves, in a healthy relationship you respect and accept your differences.
3. You can communicate clearly
Clear and direct communication is a sign of a healthy relationship for two main reasons, says Chris Leeth, PhD, LPC-S, a professor of counseling at the University of Texas at San Antonio.
1. It suggests that both partners are able to express their wants and needs in a way that the other person can understand.
2. Both partners can hear what the other person is saying and understand what is being conveyed.
This kind of communication can help you connect to your partner, express yourself honestly, and resolve any conflicts that may come up.
4. You are equal partners
You and your partner both have a say in the relationship. From what to do on the weekend to how many children to have, you make decisions together. You view each other as equals - one partner doesn’t see themselves as better or more powerful in the relationship. Both of you also contribute your fair share to the relationship - maybe your partner cannot cook but will take care of grocery shopping.
5. You enjoy each other’s company.
It’s healthy for couples to have individual interests and to spend time apart, but healthy couples do enjoy spending time together, whether they binge a TV series together, work out together, or enjoy regular date nights.
6. You appreciate each other
Studies show that appreciating your partner is one of the strongest predictors of whether or not couples feel satisfied in a relationship. That's because appreciating your partner and the things they do for you can help each of you feel loved and satisfied in the relationship. Being grateful for your partner allows you to focus on their positive traits and may help balance out any conflicts.
7. You can be yourselves
You deserve a partner who loves you just the way you are. So keep your identity and be honest about your likes and dislikes, show your quirks, reveal your guilty pleasures, and continue with your hobbies. You are your own person, whether you are in a relationship or not. You accept each other for the person you are right now. You don’t try to change each other. You also spend time apart to have some alone time, meet with friends, and pursue your own interests.
8. You feel supported and cared for
The best way to know that you’re in a healthy relationship is to consider how your relationship makes you feel. Infatuation can feel exciting and drama can masquerade as passion, but true love feels safe, calm, and empowering. (And that can still feel exciting and passionate!) If your partner regularly shows that they care for you and support you, that’s a good sign of a healthy relationship.
